Choose Your partner Carefully.

Selecting partner:- One must select a partner accordingly & wisely .
Meet a person, talk to him/her , see how much your likings & thinking matches. Are you people compatible or not. I know there is a famous saying opp attracts but often it rebels as well specially after marriage when you start living under a same roof. What are your priorities ?? Give stress on that. If both of your priorities , wants are different from life then later in future it can be troubling, so try and avoid it. Marriage is not a party that if your friends are attending that you are also attracted to attend it, No it’s a big decision of life. So don’t think what people say or think, till your inner voice pushes you don’t jump. I mean till you actually feel like do not marry, just for a sake of marriage. You should have correct reason to marry, don’t marry just because of you are afraid of being alone in your old age(days) or just because you are getting old and can lose your biological potentials. Marry for correct reason, that is togetherness, love & affection. Because if you will marry for a wrong reason , after marriage in few years you might feel you are with a wrong person and leading a wrong life.

For Females :- 1) If you are well educated or highly educated then go for a man who is compatible with you in terms of education & intellects, else there will be rifts and adjustment problems. Ego’s can hurt and make the relationship bitter. Earlier men used to be educated & their wives were hardly graduates or not even that, so that time the wives had a thinking that our husbands are earning bread, so they are no less then god, woman were just graded as homemakers and caretakers of family & children, but now days woman are educated and are bread earners, they cannot be graded that way anymore, ofcourse the affection part is there but apart from that you cannot take them for granted anymore, today’s woman is aware of their fundamental rights and love a dignified life. So you need to choose a man who is mature, modest, well educated, less complexed, not a hypocrite and not a male chauvinist for sure.

2) Joint family/ Nuclear family- If a girl has been raised in a nuclear family then she should avoid marrying in a joint family,( & vice versa) to avoid risks. Exceptions are always there but this is a known fact that adjustment is very important. If you are independent, outgoing , hate interferences and are strong headed then do not get married into a joint family. ( Many won’t support this , but it’s a fact) Joint family needs lot of adjustment, and patience and if you are not that kind of material then avoid it, because it can increase complications in your and your husband’s life. Go for a man who is self independent & lives separately, this is not a gurantee but atleast can avoid complications. But after marriage don’t say that oh I omitted a mistake, it’s too late then, so better be cautious and take decision accordingly. And if you think you are adjusting, have patience and can manage others properly then marry in joint family. (Note- rather than having troubles after marriage it’s better to avoid the situation itself.)3) If you are looking for an arranged marriage then try to marry within your culture, because after marriage adjusting is a problem , initially we think oh sabkuch ho jayega , it will be fun but later on it becomes serious. Select the family wisely and accordingly, if you are raised in a very liberal and broadminded family than select the same kind for marriage because it will be easy to adapt, do not marry a conservative man from a conservative family. If you yourself have been raised in a orthodox & conservative family then choose the same kind of family for marriage , avoid mismatch . Because that can become a major issue for adjustment problems. 4) Marry a person who wants a partner for himself , it clearly means that he is independent and have mature thinking.He is not spineless. He knows his needs, do not just marry a man who needs a caretaker for his family or home, Because when we marry a person the person becomes our better half, after few years both partners parents expire & that time husband & wife is the family and eachothers supporting system. So a man who wants to marry for himself will keep you happy and will give you that love & affection,and automatically you will consider his parents as yours and it will be a happy family. Whereas a man who just wants a caretaker for his parents or family, will always expect fulfillment of duties from you, which will make your life stressfull and you will be under constant pressure. Your whole life will pass pleasing others,and no one will care or ask whether you are happy or not, this is a true fact. Respecting elders, keeping them happy is a duty for both husband & wife towards their respective inlaws. It’s not just a duty of wife to take care of her husband’s parents , even she has some expectations from her husband towards her family members. So avoid marrying such men who think it is the whole sole duty of a woman to take care of her inlaws, just because she is married in this family. This is unfair and verymuch male dominant. Earlier woman used to accept such behavior, but now woman doesn’t accept this unfair behavior. This is very much true that after marriage a girl has to leave her parents home etc, and she cannot avoid her duties as a daughter in law but also she cannot and she should not forget her old parent’s , there must be a balance. What irony no one asks men to forget there parents after marriage, but woman is bound to forget, ( ghar paraya hogya ab toh, now this is your home) such things are said to a wife. And after so much of sacrifice still woman are blamed as home breakers, so one should avoid marrying such rigid thinking men. Try to find a suitable compatible partner, who is fair and balanced person.

Keep these points in mind when you think about your partner. All the best.....

LOVE AAJKAL !

LOVE AAJKAL………………..
Hmmmm now all must be be thinking ,what does she mean by love aajkal ? Is she influenced by the movie, I mean y love aajkal. Lemme help you with the question , ie : WHAT IS LOVE AAJKAL ???
Love a very pure and scared feeling. This word comprises of feelings, emotions, trust, honesty, respect , care, attachment, and a special click a magic ! Now it’s a feeling, that means we love our parents, friends, siblings, pets or whatever we are attached with . And when it is for a girl or boy it’s a bit special…..u understand what I mean, ahem ahem………………..
But I guess love aajkal has love no where. The word love has vanished, I won’t say it has vanished completely but yes under process. I don’t know what is so wrong with the mango people. I really want to know, is there any problem with the manufacturing process or what ????? Because earlier it wasn’t like this, I mean the situation was still good. Today in a relationship we will find everything, fun, togetherness , quality time , drama, lots of crap, dishonesty, disrespect and the most important thing , intimacy…..huhhh I mean physical relationship . Oh but something is missing…..now whats that? AHH found it, its LOVE , remember feelings, emotions, honesty, etc.
Today in a relationship, the word love is manipulated, it’s a need , just for the sake of being with someone, for fun, for sex , attraction or anything but atleast not for love or feelings. That’s the reason, the word break off, broke up is so frequently heard. Whether its a short term relation or a long one, say 6-7 yrs, 8-9yrs, they break so easily, as if it was never true as if it was all fake. where is faith, where is committment? I don’t understand what ‘s wrong, nowdays you can’t trust, no feelings, emotions , heartless people,there is dishonesty, disrespect, using a person financially, mentally, physically or any way out, what is this, how can a person be so unethical and cruel. Values, kindness all these words have vanished, today people don’t understand such words, they can’t relate to it ! Relationships have become so fake, and so uncertain, so inconsistent that you never know what is next . whenever I call my old friends iam always afraid n feel awkward to ask about their boyfriend/girlfriend, cause I don’t know what I will get to hear. All I hear is , we broke up, he/she ditched me, he/she was seeing someone else, I dumped him etc . But why all this ? Today a person with true feelings, emotions and honesty is called fool. Why ? IS IT MATERIALIZATION, JOKE OF OUR VALUES, IS IT ALL ABOUT SEX ?????
ARE WE REALLY GROWING AND DEVELOPING ?????? I mean how can people turn so inconsistent . It’s really very shame full, love and relationships have become a subject of joke, fun , need and sex. And if this continues we will die alone. Iam no love guru, can’t teach anybody anything , iam a simple girl who has expressed her point of view on these days relationships, so called LOVEAAJKAL. I can just say, for me love is a beautiful feeling, feel the happiness of togetherness, have faith , respect your partner and your relationship with honesty, and try to be consistent. There is no point fooling and faking around. Dats all ………………!

Thankyou

Do we really love our parents ???

DO WE REALLY LOVE OUR PARENTS ???
This is one question we should ask ourselves…..By this question I mean do we really love them or just need them, to fulfill our needs. I have realized that most of us don’t sit with never spend time with them, we don’t share our feeling or thoughts with them, because we think that they won’t understand. But is it a fault or a generation gap, let it b any reason , we can just escape giving reasons. But our parents don’t give lame excuses , nor they try to escape. How easily we invest our everything for a guy or a gal . If the person is worth then the investment is still fruitful, but what if he/she is not worth. We cry and get back to our parents for their support and affection, and if we can’t do that we try to move on or do whatever that helps us to get out of that situation. Our parents silently forgive us, although they understand everything but still they accept us. . But do we realize all this…? We don’t have any idea what we owe to our parents !! They do everything to make us happy , there love and affection is priceless . Love is the most beautiful gift , so loving a person is no harm but we should never forget this that we have our other responsibilities aswell, towards our career, education, family. Most importantly our parents expect a lot from us, and we are nobody to ruin that just for our own selfish motives. We become so selfish and just think of our pain, our problems and we don’t even try to understand and forget their sufferings . Don’t you think that it’s a sin that we hurt our parents, break their trust, their dreams and make them cry. Its not about being into a relationship and hurting or neglecting your parents, it can be anything. It depends on us on our activities, our living, and how balance things. Its something that how we set our priorities . So whatever happens good or bad we should never forget the love and affection, contributions of our lovable parents . Afterall it’s something in our roots,our culture, love , affection , respect & care .We should never forget this and should be proud of our own culture and our roots. Parents are something not meant for need, they are everything to us…we get our respective identities from them. How can we forget their contributions. Thankfully, after lot of ups n downs I have realized . Life has taught me a good lesson, it’s a new chapter….I DON’T BELIEVE IN GOD, BUT THANX TO MY STARS THAT I AM GIFTED WITH THE MOST LOVABLE PARENTS OF THIS WORLD. I BELIEVE IN MY PARENTS….THEY ARE MY GOD, and I can proudly say that I worship them. I love you momdad , and can do anything for you . Thanx for everything !

Introduction

Hi mango people.............

Iam Tanya Mukherjee, you can call me taani or tanu. Iam a bong,born n broughtup in UP.
Iam very talkative bt at d same time moody, i luv spending time wid my frnds and family. love music, painting, swimming,dancing[its my passion,in my blood] and taking care of pets n plants, so you can call me a nature lover.
About me :
Softhearted, caring, loving, short tempered, faithful, straightforward, bold, honest.
Favourite colour- Pink,black, yellow and white......
Favourite food - Chicken biryani, chinese,punjabi, dimsums, anything mommade n yummy.
Favourite Movies - its a long list....DDLJ, hahk, Titanic, american beauty, bend it like becham, love ajkal,jab we met....n a nva ending chain.

abhi k liye itni itroduction ......rest u all ll get to know me...!